We can become discriminating thinkers – and teach our children, family, and
friends to become that way too. Here are some ideas how:
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Realize that you may not have been given the tools to successfully wade through
all the complex,
mumbo-jumbo out there. Seek help.
• Ask
questions. Probe assumptions. This is probably the easiest thing to do
immediately. Ask “why” and “how” and “where did you hear that” and “how do you
know that?”
• Hold yourself strictly accountable for what
you say. Don’t even tell a friend about something you heard about unless you
know where you heard it. Don’t contribute to the growing mythology we all have
about what is going on in the world, how the world works, and who is good and
who is bad. Find out for sure. When you read something in the newspaper, realize
that it is a very incomplete picture of what is really happening. When you talk
about it, preface your statements with words like “well, I don’t know what is
really happening, but I read in the Times that . . .” This is a very important
step in keeping your mind and heart open. Say what you mean and mean what you
say.
• Reject stereotypes. Watch your language. We
reinforce our own flawed learning everyday when we are sloppy with our thinking
and our language. Don’t participate in the assumptions of our culture that
continue to isolate us from each other. Don’t say things like “women love to
shop” or “men love sports.” Don’t accept any of the assumptions that are often
made about Hispanics, Asians, Native Americans, Jews, or whoever. When you hear
someone say “oh you know them, they are so lazy” when referring to some other
culture, STOP THEM. Tell them that such a statement is inappropriate and
unfounded. If you listen and laugh, you are participating.
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Don’t watch the television news AT ALL. There is nothing you can gain from it.
Nothing.
• Seek alternative information sources. Seek
out alternative bookstores in your community. Resist patronizing the large chain
bookstores. Visit an alternative bookstore and then visit the superstore. Notice
the difference in the type of books carried. Reflect on the affect that such
selective book offerings in the superstores have on the public. What if everyone
knew about alternative bookstores and their selections? Visit a women’s
bookstore in your community. Look at the amazing titles they carry. Reflect upon
how the world has been affected by the fact that our perception of the universe
has been seen from almost exclusively a white class-privileged male
perspective.
• Examine your spending habits. Think
carefully about what you need versus what you think you want. Are you spending
to fill an emotional need, because you’
ve been denied something you thought you
deserved at work or as a child, or because you are angry or sad? Think about
this very carefully.
It is easy to get discouraged, to feel
overwhelmed. But if you realize that the choices you make in what you buy and
what you eat can have such a dramatic affect on the world, you can get quite a
bit of power back. If you realize how easy it can be to smile at someone or to
help someone in need, you will start to see that the answers to our dilemmas lie
not just in legislation or politics, but in our hearts. Just figure out what you
want to be remembered for and what is important to you. Then, do everything in
your power to make those things come true.